Four Possible Scenarios to WILD AFFAIR

There are four possible scenarios as to why once committed partners find themselves caught up in an extramarital affair.

-Accidental

It simply just happens. Irrespective of those who are out of control and given over to old-fashioned lust, those who are genuinely heart hungry souls have a way of finding each other.  Fear not the purely sexual variety of cheating. Those situations where two people relate to each other in every way and feed off of each other's presence in their lives are so much more dangerous to an unsuspecting mate.When two individuals work or socialize together, a connection can take place so easily when both have been denied the basic needs that any love relationship originally promised to provide. Affairs are not always planned. More times than not, they just happen.

-Philandering

Frequent and multiple affairs occur when an individual is unable to empathize with the feelings of their mates and all those who are negatively impacted by continual sexual misbehaviour. Up through the mid-1960s philandering was glorified under the guise of "The New Morality" and the "Free Love" movement. Previous to that, there were three types of sexually transmitted diseases. There are now 67 types of venereal disease in the United States and 115 worldwide. Just one of them, the AIDS epedemic, is so widespread that it has singlehandedly revived monogomy and inspired the "Safe Sex" movement, thus combatting the sexual promiscuity of modern day "philanderers." 

-Romantic Infidelity (primarily women)

The need to fall in love and again experience all of those wonderful feelings that come with it is what motivates some to seek an intimate relationship outside the boundries of marriage. Those who take part in this type of an affair are seeking to find those elements that are missing in their own marriages. Consequently, when these types of infidelities are discovered, the blame is placed almost solely on the unfaithful party. Any responsibility on behalf of the offended mate is ignored.  As a result, any kind of reconciliation becomes impossible because the faithful mate is not willing to accept that they are not fulfilling the needs of the other person nor are they willing to make the changes that would give the marriage a chance to work. Wise was the woman who told her unfaithful but repentent husband, "This is not your problem.  It is our problem." 

-Open/Swinging

This type of extramarital affair includes swinging and open marriages. The idea here is if both parties agree to sharing intimacy with someone else, then no one being considered as cheating. Open marriages are those where each one gives the other permission to experience physical intimacy with others as long as the primary relationship stays intact. Swinging occurs when two people agree with each other to share themselves with other couples; sometimes together in foursomes; sometimes separately as couples. Such relationships are the least accepted by our culture, yet, there are those who practice them while still maintaining their marriages.